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The Saying Goodbye Services are the first national set of remembrance services for people who have lost a child at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, whether the loss be recent or 80-years ago.

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Saying Goodbye Services

The Saying Goodbye services are run by the Mariposa Trust and take place throughout the UK. For a list of upcoming services, please see the Services Page.

Since 2012, 62 services have been held across the UK and North America, allowing thousands of people to remember the babies they have lost. The services are completely free to attend, and are open to anyone of any faith or no faith. They have been strategically located, to make them accessible to as many people as possible.

They are held in Cathedrals and Minsters and so follow an Anglican format, but also include secular music, poetry and other elements.

Who Can Attend the Services?

The services are for women and men who have suffered loss of a baby, as well as for their children and their extended family and friends, whether the loss be recent or historic.

It should also be noted that all are welcome regardless of the type of loss they have experienced, so whether they have been through early or late miscarriage, missed miscarriage, an ectopic or molar pregnancy, still birth, early infant loss or any other type of baby or child loss.

If you need to say goodbye to a baby or to grief, or you want to come along with a friend who needs to say goodbye, you are welcome at any of the services.

Why Should I Attend the Services?

Loss at any stage is traumatic. Early loss is often not acknowledged or discussed, with commemorative services seldom taking place, whilst services for babies who are stillborn or lost in early years, are usually conducted while parents are in a fog of grief and pain.

The services will give you the opportunity to stand with other people ‘who know’ the pain of losing a child, and publicly acknowledge and remember your lost children.

Come and rejoice in your baby’s life, grieve, remember and formally Say Goodbye.

Find out more about the Services…
  • Upcoming Services

    • Exeter Cathedral - 3rd September - 1:30pm
    • Glasgow Cathedral - 24th September - 11:00am
    • St Andrews Cathedral - 28th September - 7:30pm
    • Sunderland Minster - 2nd October - 3:00pm
    • Bradford Cathedral - 16th October - 4:00pm
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