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The Content of the Services

At each of the services, we have a symbolic act. This may be the lighting of a candle, or the ringing of a hand bell, but please be assured, this is not you letting go of the child or children you have lost or of their memory; it’s simply a mark of remembrance. Anyone who has lost a child knows they will continue to live in your hearts.

There will be a short message of hope by senior clergy from the locations, and at times, stories from people who have suffered loss, and how they have come through what can often seem like an impossible situation. Regardless of your faith or beliefs, we hope that these will bring some peace to you.

There will no formal counselling provided on the day, but the Saying Goodbye team are always available to talk, should it be needed.

The Music in the Services


To allow you time to reflect, we will be using live and pre-recorded music throughout each of the services.

We have been able to secure some amazing choirs,and international singers and musicians to perform at the services.

Why Cathedrals?

Saying Goodbye Service Cathedrals

We have been asked ‘Why Cathedrals?’ Our answer is clear. “Because our babies deserve to be honoured in wonderful, awe inspiring places.”

Additionally we want all people to feel at ease attending the services, and as the venues we have chosen are used for many secular events as well as Christian services, we hope people of every faith (or no faith) will feel comfortable coming along.

We also wanted the venues to be centrally located, easy to find, and offer plenty of space, so not only people who have lost a baby themselves can attend, but also their supportive friends and extended family, who may also feel a need to say goodbye to their niece, nephew or grandchild.

Extra Information

Each of the venues will cater for people with any mobility restrictions or disabilities. There will be a designated area at each of the venues for people in wheelchairs, or for people who have hearing or visual impairment.

Babies & children are more than welcome to attend, however there will be no childcare facilities or creches available. We simply ask that people are sensitive to those grieving around them.

The services are free to attend. However there are substantial costs involved in planning and hosting these services, including venue costs, printing and ancillary expenses. We will therefore be taking a collection at each service, with the hope that these expenses will be covered, to enable Saying Goodbye to keep functioning.