Saying Goodbye provides comprehensive information, advice, support and much more to anyone who has suffered the loss of a baby, at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy

Firstly, know that you are not alone. Unfortunately hundreds of thousands of people across the UK and Globally go through baby loss each day, and for each person, we are here to help, to explain, to try and make sense of what for many can be a deeply traumatic time.

Secondly, please make use of the information on the site, contact the team for further support if you or a loved one needs it, and know that we are here for you.

Become part of the change…

As a baby loss community, no-ones voice is insignificant. Each person’s journey and experience is unique, and deserves to be acknowledged and heard. If you are passionate about actioning change, come support the work of the charity. Whether you can donate time, resources or just your voice, we need you, because ‘Together We Are Stronger.’

Mariposa Ball & Awards Results

Rio & Kate Ferdinand at the Mariposa Ball

On the 11th March, the Mariposa Ball and Mariposa Awards took place at the Landmark Hotel in London. This black-tie event saw over 250 guests enjoy an incredible evening filled with amazing food, and stunning entertainment. The ball was hosted by actress and presenter Kym Marsh, with a host of celebrities presenting the awards.

The Charity’s Biggest Year of Fundraising

2023 marks the 10th Anniversary of the charity, and we are launching our biggest year of fundraising and appeals ever. We are needing people from across the UK and worldwide to show their support for our work by taking on a whole range of challenges, or by simply donating to support our work. Over the past decade the charity has supported literally hundreds of thousands of people globally through their experiences of baby loss, and we are asking people to ‘pay it forward’ and help the charity support even more people in the months and years ahead.

Every day, we hear from so many of you who have been supported and helped by the work of the charity. You tell us about how your lives have been changed, and how the lives of your partners, children, parents, siblings and friends have been impacted by the work of the charity, and so we are asking people wherever you are in the world to show your support for the charity, and financially give, to ensure the vital work of the charity can continue to transform people’s lives.

’10K in May’ and ’10K Summer Challenge’

Race for Love

We are calling people around the UK and globally to take part in our special challenges, ‘Race for Love 10K in May’ and ‘Race for Love 10K Summer Challenge’, where we are asking people to run, walk, cycle, swim or find another way to complete 10K.

People may choose to do this individually or as part of a team, work colleagues could join together or perhaps a whole family would take on the challenge…we just want people to do their best and raise funds to support the vital ongoing work of the Mariposa Trust.

The Big Birthday Challenge

Mariposa Big Birthday Challenge

For those less sporty, or who simply do not want to wear Lycra, we are calling people around the UK and globally to take on another challenge.

Could you take on a skydive as part of ‘Jump for Love’ or arrange a bake sale? Could you arrange a lavish ball, or a summer fun day?

We need as may people as possible to individually (or as a team) sign up to fundraise in 2023.

Our biggest financial appeal…

10,000 Giving £10 Appeal

We are looking for 10,000 people who will donate £10 each. That may be a one-off donation, or if it is at all possible, please sign up to give every month, and if you can give more than £10…please do. Simply scan the QR code to donate today.

100 Heroes Each Raising £10K

Mariposa 100 Heroes Each Raising 10K

We are looking for 100 incredible individuals and teams who will become Mariposa Heroes by committing to raise £10K over the next 12-months. This is a huge challenge, but we know that so many of you can achieve this. Please email the team at [email protected] to sign up today.

Statement from Zoe Clark-Coates on the Announcement of the Certification for Pre-24-week Loss

I am delighted to announce that the government has accepted one of the key early recommendations of the Pregnancy Loss Review, to introduce an official certificate of loss, which will be available to anyone who experiences baby loss pre-24-weeks gestation, should they request it.

The Pregnancy Loss Review, which is due to be published later this year, submitted an interim recommendation to be included within the Women’s Health Strategy. Sam and I are thrilled that the Prime Minister has accepted our submission, and the certificate has been announced as part of the WHS today.

As a charity, The Mariposa Trust ([email protected]) has been campaigning for this change for the past 8-years. We have also been campaigning with Dame Floella Benjamin in The House of Lords to introduce this much-needed certificate. We look forward to seeing
this formal acknowledgement of loss being available across England very soon.

In 2018 Sam Collinge and I were appointed by the Secretary of State for Health and Social Care to conduct a thorough review of care, treatment and support for anyone experiencing a pre-24-week baby loss. Later this year, the Pregnancy Loss Review will present Ministers with a raft of recommendations in a bid to transform bereavement care across England for anyone experiencing baby loss.

Every person who encounters the tragic loss of a baby deserves the best compassionate care, and Sam and I hope the entire report will be accepted and implemented.

Zoe Clark-Coates

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Our Latest Video – One More

The Life & Soul Podcast with Zoe Clark-Coates

Join grief and loss expert Zoe Clark-Coates MBE, as she has heart to heart chats with celebrities and friends. No topic is off the table, as guests open up about their life stories. Some episodes will make you laugh, some will move you to tears, all will make you think!

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About Saying Goodbye

About Saying Goodbye

Since its launch Saying Goodbye has been changing the face of baby loss support across the UK and globally. As the primary division of the Mariposa Trust, Saying Goodbye has embraced the use of social media, befrienders, online portals, therapy and more, providing relevant advice, information and support to tens of thousands of people each week.

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About the Founders

Zoe and Andy Clark-Coates founded the charity the Mariposa Trust, of which Saying Goodbye is the primary division. As a couple they had personally gone through the experience of baby loss five times, and as such had seen what was missing in the support sector, and wanted to launch an organisation to meet this need.

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Fundraising and Donations

The charity relies fully on the generosity of individuals, couples, families, companies and foundations to carry on its vital work. If you are able to donate to the work of the charity, we would greatly appreciate your support, and if you are able to get involved in fundraising, we would love to have you join the fundraising team.

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