About the Saying Goodbye Services

Inside Bristol Cathedral at a Saying Goodbye Service

The Saying Goodbye Services are the first international set of remembrance services for people who have lost a child at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, whether the loss be recent or 80 years ago. In addition, anyone who has been through fertility treatment or who has never been able to have children for whatever reason, is most welcome.

Since 2012, over 137 services have been held across the UK, North America and France, allowing tens of thousands of people to remember the babies they have lost. The services are completely free to attend, do not need tickets or any advance bookings, and are open to anyone of any faith or no faith. They have been strategically located, to make them accessible to as many people as possible, and services take place within 60-90 minutes of the majority of the UK population.

The Mariposa Trust is a non-religious charity, but has seen the importance of the Saying Goodbye services taking place in magnificent Cathedrals, Minsters and Abbey’s. These venues are used for the most important events of state, from coronations and weddings to important civic events, and services of remembrance should take no less a place within society. The services follow an Anglican format, and include secular music, poetry, acts of remembrance and other elements.

The services contain beautiful music, and here is Millie singing ‘Saying Goodbye’ at our service at St Andrew’s Cathedral in Aberdeen.


Who Can Attend the Services?

The services are for women and men who have suffered the loss of a baby, as well as for their children and their extended family and friends, whether the loss be recent or historic. In addition, anyone who has been through fertility treatment or who has never been able to have children for whatever reason, is most welcome.

It should also be noted that all are welcome regardless of the type or circumstances of loss they have experienced. Whether you have been through early or late miscarriage, missed miscarriage, an ectopic or molar pregnancy, stillbirth, neonatal or early infant loss or any other type of baby or child loss, all are welcome.

If you need to say goodbye to a baby or to grieve, or you want to come along with a friend who needs to say goodbye, you are welcome at any of the services.

Why Should I Attend the Services?

Loss at any stage is traumatic. Early loss is often not acknowledged or discussed, with commemorative services seldom taking place. Services for babies who are stillborn or lost in early years, are usually conducted while parents are in a fog of grief and pain.

The services will give you the opportunity to stand with other people ‘who know’ the pain of losing a child, and offer you a time to publicly acknowledge and remember children who have been lost.


Following the success of the online Saying Goodbye events during 2020, the charity will continue to hold these during 2021. These provide a time and opportunity to collectively remember all lost babies & children. Join with others around the globe and light a candle in your home.

Upcoming spring services are as follows:

  • 17th Oct 2021 – 8.00pm
  • 14th Nov 2021 – 8.00pm
  • 19th Dec 2021 – 8.00pm


For lots of questions and answers about the services, please see the ‘Attending a Saying Goodbye Service‘ page

Saying Goodbye Service Dates & Locations

Below are the dates of upcoming Saying Goodbye (SG) Services. If you would like to know more about any of the services, please Contact Us.

The services have limited space. Seats will be allocated on a first-come, first-seated basis. Please reserve your place using this form…

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Saying Goodbye services take place across the UK, US and France with services normally taking place in London, Manchester, Cardiff, Glasgow, Oxford, Exeter, Plymouth, Winchester, Belfast, Canterbury, Derby, Wimborne, Malmesbury, Sunderland, Inverness, Edinburgh, Bradford, Chelmsford, Ely, Paris (France) and New York (USA).