About the Saying Goodbye Services

Inside Bristol Cathedral at a Saying Goodbye Service

The Saying Goodbye Services are the first international set of remembrance services for people who have lost a child at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, whether the loss be recent or 80 years ago. In addition, anyone who has been through fertility treatment or who has never been able to have children for whatever reason, is most welcome.

Since 2012, over 137 services have been held across the UK, North America and France, allowing tens of thousands of people to remember the babies they have lost. The services are completely free to attend, do not need tickets or any advance bookings, and are open to anyone of any faith or no faith. They have been strategically located, to make them accessible to as many people as possible, and services take place within 60-90 minutes of the majority of the UK population.

The Mariposa Trust is a non-religious charity, but has seen the importance of the Saying Goodbye services taking place in magnificent Cathedrals, Minsters and Abbey’s. These venues are used for the most important events of state, from coronations and weddings to important civic events, and services of remembrance should take no less a place within society. The services follow an Anglican format, and include secular music, poetry, acts of remembrance and other elements.

The services contain beautiful music, and here is Millie singing ‘Saying Goodbye’ at our service at St Andrew’s Cathedral in Aberdeen.

Who Can Attend the Services?

The services are for women and men who have suffered the loss of a baby, as well as for their children and their extended family and friends, whether the loss be recent or historic. In addition, anyone who has been through fertility treatment or who has never been able to have children for whatever reason, is most welcome.

It should also be noted that all are welcome regardless of the type or circumstances of loss they have experienced. Whether you have been through early or late miscarriage, missed miscarriage, an ectopic or molar pregnancy, stillbirth, neonatal or early infant loss or any other type of baby or child loss, all are welcome.

If you need to say goodbye to a baby or to grieve, or you want to come along with a friend who needs to say goodbye, you are welcome at any of the services.

Why Should I Attend the Services?

Loss at any stage is traumatic. Early loss is often not acknowledged or discussed, with commemorative services seldom taking place. Services for babies who are stillborn or lost in early years, are usually conducted while parents are in a fog of grief and pain.

The services will give you the opportunity to stand with other people ‘who know’ the pain of losing a child, and offer you a time to publicly acknowledge and remember children who have been lost.

The next Saying Goodbye Online Services will be on:

  • Sunday 4th October at 8.00pm
  • Sunday 1st November at 8.00pm
  • Sunday 6th December at 8.00pm

A time to collectively remember all lost babies & children. Join with others around the globe and light a candle in your home.

For lots of questions and answers about the services, please see the ‘Attending a Saying Goodbye Service‘ page

Saying Goodbye Service Dates & Locations

Below are the dates of upcoming Saying Goodbye (SG) Services. If you would like to know more about any of the services, please Contact Us.


Saying Goodbye Canterbury & Chelmsford 2020

Due to COVID-19 we have had to introduce a booking system for places at the Canterbury and Chelmsford services.

Canterbury has now reached the restricted capacity, but we are gathering a reserve list. Please feel free to still request tickets for the Canterbury service, as you will then be added to the reserve list, and will be contacted should spaces become available.

Please click on the Booking Page link below to request a place at Canterbury or Chelmsford:

Book a free ticket at the Canterbury or Chelmsford Services

Saying Goodbye Malmesbury, Exeter, Plymouth and Ely 2020

Due to COVID-19 we have had to introduce a booking system for places at the Malmesbury, Exeter, Plymouth and Ely services, so click on the Booking Page link below to request a place:

Book a free ticket at the Malmesbury, Exeter, Plymouth or Ely Services


Date Time Event Event Poster (PDF)
10/10/2020 4:00pm SG Service at Canterbury Cathedral, Kent
13/10/2020 7:30pm SG Service at Chelmsford Cathedral, Chelmsford
17/10/2020 12:00pm SG Service at Malmesbury Abbey, Malmesbury
01/11/2020 8:00pm Saying Goodbye Online (November)
07/11/2020 11:30am SG Service at Exeter Cathedral, Exeter
11/11/2020 7:00pm SG Service at St Andrew's Minster, Plymouth
15/11/2020 6:30pm SG Service at Ely Cathedral, Ely
29/11/2020 3:30pm SG Service at Methodist Central Hall, Westminster
06/12/2020 8:00pm Saying Goodbye Online (December)
01/01/2021 2:00pm SG Service at Birmingham Cathedral, West Midlands - Postponed - Awaiting New 2021 Date
17/04/2021 7:30pm SG Service at Christ Church Cathedral, Oxford
18/04/2021 3:30pm SG Service at Wimborne Minster, Wimborne
24/04/2021 3:00pm SG Service at Derby Cathedral, Derby
05/06/2021 2:30pm SG Service at Manchester Cathedral, Manchester
06/06/2021 3:00pm SG Service at Sunderland Minster, Sunderland
27/06/2021 3:30pm SG Service at St Anne's Cathedral, Belfast
02/10/2021 2:30pm SG Service at Llandaff Cathedral, Cardiff
24/10/2021 3:30pm SG Service at Bradford Cathedral, Bradford

The services have limited space. Seats will be allocated on a first come, first seated basis.

Find out more about the Saying Goodbye Services…


Saying Goodbye services take place across the UK, US and France with services normally taking place in London, Manchester, Cardiff, Glasgow, Oxford, Exeter, Plymouth, Winchester, Belfast, Canterbury, Derby, Wimborne, Malmesbury, Sunderland, Inverness, Edinburgh, Bradford, Chelmsford, Ely, Paris (France) and New York (USA).