About the Saying Goodbye Services

Inside Bristol Cathedral at a Saying Goodbye Service

The Saying Goodbye Services are the first international set of remembrance services for people who have lost a child at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy, whether the loss be recent or 80 years ago. In addition, anyone who has been through fertility treatment or who has never been able to have children for whatever reason, is most welcome.

Since 2012, over 137 services have been held across the UK, North America and France, allowing tens of thousands of people to remember the babies they have lost. The services are completely free to attend, do not need tickets or any advance bookings, and are open to anyone of any faith or no faith. They have been strategically located, to make them accessible to as many people as possible, and services take place within 60-90 minutes of the majority of the UK population.

The Mariposa Trust is a non-religious charity, but has seen the importance of the Saying Goodbye services taking place in magnificent Cathedrals, Minsters and Abbey’s. These venues are used for the most important events of state, from coronations and weddings to important civic events, and services of remembrance should take no less a place within society. The services follow an Anglican format, and include secular music, poetry, acts of remembrance and other elements.

The services contain beautiful music, and here is Millie singing ‘Saying Goodbye’ at our service at St Andrew’s Cathedral in Aberdeen.

Who Can Attend the Services?

The services are for women and men who have suffered the loss of a baby, as well as for their children and their extended family and friends, whether the loss be recent or historic. In addition, anyone who has been through fertility treatment or who has never been able to have children for whatever reason, is most welcome.

It should also be noted that all are welcome regardless of the type or circumstances of loss they have experienced. Whether you have been through early or late miscarriage, missed miscarriage, an ectopic or molar pregnancy, stillbirth, neonatal or early infant loss or any other type of baby or child loss, all are welcome.

If you need to say goodbye to a baby or to grieve, or you want to come along with a friend who needs to say goodbye, you are welcome at any of the services.

Why Should I Attend the Services?

Loss at any stage is traumatic. Early loss is often not acknowledged or discussed, with commemorative services seldom taking place. Services for babies who are stillborn or lost in early years, are usually conducted while parents are in a fog of grief and pain.

The services will give you the opportunity to stand with other people ‘who know’ the pain of losing a child, and offer you a time to publicly acknowledge and remember children who have been lost.

Sunday 17th May 8pm Sunday 31st May 8pm Sunday 14th June 8pm Sunday 28th June 8pm

A time to collectively remember all lost babies & children. Join with others around the globe and light a candle in your home.

For lots of questions and answers about the services, please see the ‘Attending a Saying Goodbye Service‘ page

Saying Goodbye Service Dates & Locations

Below are the dates of upcoming Saying Goodbye (SG) Services. If you would like to know more about any of the services, please Contact Us.

**Due to Covid-19 some services have been postponed and are temporarily listed in January 2021. We hope to schedule these during late 2020, and will update the dates as soon as we can.

Date Time Event Event Poster (PDF)
05/09/2020 12:00pm SG Service at Glasgow Cathedral, Glasgow
06/09/2020 3:00pm SG Service at Perth Cathedral, Perth
09/09/2020 7:30pm SG Service at St Andrew's Cathedral, Inverness
11/09/2020 7:00pm SG Service at St Andrew's Cathedral, Aberdeen
12/09/2020 2:00pm SG Service at St Mary's Episcopal Cathedral, Edinburgh
03/10/2020 2:30pm SG Service at Llandaff Cathedral, Cardiff
10/10/2020 12:00pm SG Service at Canterbury Cathedral, Kent
13/10/2020 7:30pm SG Service at Chelmsford Cathedral, Chelmsford
17/10/2020 12:00pm SG Service at Malmesbury Abbey, Malmesbury
18/10/2020 3:30pm SG Service at Wimborne Minster, Wimborne
24/10/2020 2:00pm SG Service at Birmingham Cathedral, West Midlands
25/10/2020 4:00pm SG Service at Bradford Cathedral, Bradford
07/11/2020 11:30am SG Service at Exeter Cathedral, Exeter
11/11/2020 7:00pm SG Service at St Andrew's Minster, Plymouth
15/11/2020 6:30pm SG Service at Ely Cathedral, Ely
29/11/2020 3:30pm SG Service at Methodist Central Hall, Westminster
01/01/2021 11:30am SG Service at Derby Cathedral, Derby - Postponed from June 2020 due to Covid-19 - Date TBC
01/01/2021 2:30pm SG Service at Manchester Cathedral, Manchester - Postponed from July 2020 due to Covid-19 - Date TBC
01/01/2021 3:00pm SG Service at Sunderland Minster, Sunderland - Postponed from May 2020 due to Covid-19 - Date TBC
01/01/2021 3:30pm SG Service at St Anne's Cathedral, Belfast - Postponed from May 2020 due to Covid-19 - Date TBC
17/04/2021 7:30pm SG Service at Christ Church Cathedral, Oxford - NEW DATE FOR 2021

The services have limited space. Seats will be allocated on a first come, first seated basis.

Find out more about the Saying Goodbye Services…


Saying Goodbye services take place across the UK, US and France with services normally taking place in London, Manchester, Cardiff, Glasgow, Oxford, Exeter, Plymouth, Winchester, Belfast, Kings Lynn, Tewkesbury, Derby, Wimborne, Malmesbury, Sunderland, Inverness, Lincoln, Bradford, Chelmsford, Ely, Paris (France) and Boston (USA).